Simple things

The simple things that matter.

When it comes to healing, it really is the simple things that matter.

Sometimes, I can’t help but think of the days when I was an active member of my local Volunteer Fire Department. Those days taught me so much in so many ways. Overall though, it made me a much better human being. While this may be true; it has also left a permanent psychological scar, right where my hopes and dreams used to reside; and honestly, I hate it!

Regardless of how much I loath this injury, there is little I can do about the choices I made to join the fire service at the young age of nineteen; none of us can go back in time.

Likewise, I will never be able to bring back those who lost their lives, many, way before their time. So then, what do I do? I have indeed been working my ass off to try to get back to the land of the living; man I miss those days. But alas, like that of my past, there is little I can do. By that I mean, I can’t snap my fingers and wish the mental pain instantly go away.

On second thought, maybe it’s not there’s little I can do but rather, it’s the little things I can do. If this is the case, then I have worked on a ton of these little things that have added up over time.

Perspective is everything.

A great example of this is a simple technique I learned in therapy. In fact, the idea is so simple that I thought; “that won’t work.” happily, I was wrong. See, sometimes its good to be wrong.

Simple things you can do to boost your mental health.

the simple things that matter.

As many of you may know, nightmares are synonymous with PTSD, they rob one of their sleep and constantly terrify them in the process. This easy to-do task is this: When you awake from a nightmare, take note of anything and everything in the room; try to include As much detail as you can. So, got a nightstand full of knick-knacks sitting on the top? Describe all of them, shape size and colour. The very act of doing this forces your focus on the here and now; the “now” is where the healing happens. And if for some reason you’re still awake, keep mentally moving around the room. See, simple and, personally, very effective. It really is the simple things that matter. I highly recommend it.

Another useful tool to try is simple exercises. Walks are like mother nature’s medication and… it’s free! Take that big pharma. Despite this one being seemingly obvious, it can seem monumentally difficult to initiate. However, you can’t beat the price and over time, your noggin will love you for it. Try getting a friend or a loved one on board, it will make this venture a lot easier.

Trained as big picture thinkers, it can be difficult to see that the solution is often the simplest one.

Thirdly, don’t take this life you’ve been given for granted, take stock of all things, big and small that you love and cherish. For me, my family is everything and when we are together, I do my best to soak up every memory made with them. Love, its simple and not limited. Our animals are our pet therapy and it’s so easy to get lost in their unconditional loyalty. What I love about taking stock is that it places you in the present and it does so without very little effort.

In conclusion, I really do think it’s the simple things that matter. Not only do they matter because life is too short, they pay off big time as you travel down the road to mental wellness.

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How a supercar and mental illness are alike.

How Supercars and Mental Illness Are Alike

How supercars and mental illness are alike, the perfect analogy?

At first glance, you may not see how a supercar can be used as the perfect analogy for how mental illness impacts our daily lives.

Because I am a lover of all things cars, it’s easy for me to see just how well these high end, fine-tuned machines work when attempting to explain the mental pain.

Supercars, like that of the Bugatti Chiron, are built for one thing and one thing only, speed. With a top speed of approximately 300mph; 482kmph, it is the roadrunner on steroids. I know, mindblowing right? Perhaps just as amazing is; when pushed at top speed, this amazing piece of engineering will run out of fuel in approximately twelve minutes; basically, it’s all about fun over fuel efficiency.

I oftentimes hit the wall and spin out of control.

Now that you have some car knowledge, I can explain how supercars and mental illness are alike. From my own experience, I kind of feel like I’m always going three-hundred miles an hour, sound familiar? This is especially true inside my head. Maybe you can relate?

Furthermore, when my mind is racing from anxiety, it depletes my mental fuel in what feels like the same amount of time as the Chiron. In other words, I lack the longevity needed to go the distance.

How a supercar and mental illness are alike.
How supercars and mental illness are alike

And like that of these speed demons, I feel like I’m always in danger of hitting the wall and spinning into a mental health crisis. It must be said, that I am nothing like that of the driver because I can’t put the dangers out of my mind and just go for it! Therefore, my triggers win the day.

The Chiron and I are equipped with a small gas tank and no reserve.

Interestingly, when I think about it, my goal is to stop being the car and work on becoming the driver. Professional drivers train to focus and condition their reaction time in order to keep from hitting the wall; essentially, they must learn to always be in the present.

Are you now seeing how supercars and mental illness are alike? I think the takeaway from this analogy is this: Although mental illness, like that of a supercar, accelerates quickly (PTSD triggers) and exhausts all its fuel (mental energy); one can use the driver as their inspiration to beat their mental health condition.

Getting down the road to mental wellness requires dedication, discipline and being present; all the skills a great driver and a mental health warrior must-have in order to keep on track.

While this is true, the road is long and the journey is gruelling. Despite this, we can make our lives better. My friends, there is hope. Learning mindfulness, seeking help from a mental health professional and sometimes medication will put you in the driver’s seat; putting you in control of your destiny.

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We must resist ourselves

we must resist ourselves

If we are to win the battle against mental illness, we must resist ourselves – John Arenburg.

Can I do this? Can I move on from this painful episode of my life? Or am I destined to be trapped in this ocean forever?

These questions constantly plague my mind; almost as frequently as my PTSD. While this may be true, I’d like to think that I’m doing okay, unfortunately, the consistency I need to defeat this beast simply isn’t there. Perhaps one of the roadblocks I am experiencing is my resistance to support.

Sure, I have goals and dreams, ambition and work ethic but essentially, like that of someone trapped at sea, I can only tread water so long until I tire and float backwards, to where I began.

my main weapon against my own tyranny is love.

I suppose that for someone living with a mental health condition, this particular battle comes standard. with all that said, it doesn’t make it any less exhausting. Yet, despite being tired, I have learned long ago that I am the only one that can save myself; for when I am drowning, it is up to me to reach out and find the help I need.

We must resist ourselves
we must resist ourselves

Of course, having a healthy dose of stubbornness goes a long way to ensure one’s survival. Like that of stubbornness, there are many more reasons that keep pushing me towards the shore. And while the length of my battle may defeat me at times, l shall stay the course and I shall survive, nay, I will do better than that, I will thrive.

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How you ask? Well, quite literally, my main weapon against my own tyranny is love; love for thy self and love for all those who see me through

This my friends is a sure way to drown

While we may want to run and hide, lick our wounds in secret, we will not survive alone. In fact, isolation can lead to a worsened mental health condition; or for some, the outcome can be dire.

Human connection and it’s impact on us

Truthfully, or at least from my point of view, we should be doing the opposite; resisting the perceived need to withdraw and hug it out with those who are in our corners.

Don’t you feel like sometimes you have a bit of self-sabotage going on? I know I sure do. On one hand, we feel like we are navigating these rough seas all on our own and on the other; we are ignoring those in the rescue boats all around us and those who are tossing us, life preservers. This my friends is a sure way to drown; something we have all been working so hard to prevent.

At the end of the day, we must resist ourselves, that temptation to go it on our own. While you may not feel worthy, I know you are and you mean so much to those who love you. Please, stop resisting the help that in reality, has a much better chance of getting you down the road to mental wellness.

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