Ebb And Flow

There is a sort of ebb and flow to PTSD and depression. John Arenburg.

It would be silly to think everyone understands the plight of the mentally ill mind. While I, like many of you, wish this were true, it’s not; in fact, some of those whom misunderstand mental health conditions are likely people you’re close to. It would be equally naive of me to think I am the only one who experiences this.

Part of the problem, at least in my experience, is the natural ebb and flow of, in my case, PTSD and its ride a long partner depression; might as well hit me from multiple angles, right?

What may be difficult for those who think we can simply get up and shake it off is, when we are in the throes of a depression, we isolate as a result, we can be missing from their lives for days.

you set the boundaries and go from their.

Of course, there’s also a little thing called stigma that is part of this equation too. One’s personal believe has a lot to do with their perception. Regardless of the motive; be aware, anyone can have this point of view, even those closes to you.

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While it can be difficult to embrace their inaccurate preconceptions of you, remember, their view is re-enforced by the observations they make when they see you; basically, when you are feeling well.

Ebb and Flow
Ebb and Flow

What’s important to realize that those who don’t understand, don’t have to have a say in your reality. Because one doesn’t think it so, doesn’t make it true, a fact we often forget.

Now does this mean you have to abandon a great friendship? Not from my point of view; we all have elements of being human that are not desirable., they are worthy of forgiveness. They can like it or they can hate it, you set the boundaries and go from there.

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Your priority is to understand that this ebb and flow is real and it does, in fact, take you out; we must get the help we need and when our mental health conditions can’t be helped; we need to ride the wave.

On a positive note, you are under no obligation to accept unfamiliar people into your life if you discover that they are not supportive or they are just downright mean.

if you can “get Over” your anxiety and depression, LUCKILY for you its not CHRONIC.

But John, how can you tell? Well, in my experience, when a person discovers you have a mental illness and has a view that somehow, willing it away is all one needs to do to get “over it” they will hesitate and verbally dance around the subject in an attempt to feel you out. The end goal? Is to figure out the best way to share their opinion; some voice it others don’t; whist others are trying to tell you you’re faking it.

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So please, don’t despair over the words of others. What you are going through is real, you can’t wish it away and you certainly can’t snap out of it. The ebb and flow of mental illness shows us just how real it is.

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Be Brave Enough

As many of you may know, for over the last month I worked on a political campaign. Many of you may also know how the symptoms of PTSD started off lurking in the background than ever so slowly overtook me and by the end of the experience, my symptoms were so pronounced that I ended up spending less and less time in the office.

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As excited as I was at the prospect of having some semblance of a normal routine, next time, I have to be real with myself and understand that a new shot at normalcy isn’t a cure for mental illness. Despite the end result, there are so many great reasons why I don’t regret being brave enough to put myself out there, to let myself be vulnerable.

Admittedly I probably took on way too much, I now know that I need to customize the next round that is more tailored towards my own needs, to work within my own tolerances. With that said, I also got so much out of the experience that it quashed any feelings of regret or failure. So, here’s why I Don’t regret being brave enough.

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  1. I was fighting for change, for metal illness – The only way to make a difference is to get involved. Being a mental health advocate and  suffering myself, I aligned myself to the New Democrats because mental health is a big part of their platform. Getting involved helped me advocate for us, asking the leader of the party a very important question. You can read about that here: Wait Times, A Mental Health Question For Jagmeet Singh or watch me ask it here.
  2. I wasn’t only fully embraced by the team, I was trusted with a key part of the campaign which I am proud of that. The people I worked with under this assignment were amazing and so hard working, as was every person working towards our goals.
  3. The commonalities that we all shared was energizing, it felt like I was part of something bigger than myself, so full of hope.
  4. Finally, the individual friendships I have made as a result of putting myself out there was well worth the mental pain, they all made this part of my journey so much easier.

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So, if you were to ask me if it was taking on this adventure was worth it, despite the mental distress it produced, I would have to answer with an unequivocal yes! Not only did I learn where I am mentally, but I was also given an opportunity to help the team, which I love. Not only that, but I had a sense that I could help make a real difference overall and as a bonus,  made some wonderful very caring and understanding friends along the way.

if you are suffering from PTSD or another mental illness, please reach out. I thank you for your service and you are still worthy and mean something. I believe in you!

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