Ebb And Flow

There is a sort of ebb and flow to PTSD and depression. John Arenburg.

It would be silly to think everyone understands the plight of the mentally ill mind. While I, like many of you, wish this were true, it’s not; in fact, some of those whom misunderstand mental health conditions are likely people you’re close to. It would be equally naive of me to think I am the only one who experiences this.

Part of the problem, at least in my experience, is the natural ebb and flow of, in my case, PTSD and its ride a long partner depression; might as well hit me from multiple angles, right?

What may be difficult for those who think we can simply get up and shake it off is, when we are in the throes of a depression, we isolate as a result, we can be missing from their lives for days.

you set the boundaries and go from their.

Of course, there’s also a little thing called stigma that is part of this equation too. One’s personal believe has a lot to do with their perception. Regardless of the motive; be aware, anyone can have this point of view, even those closes to you.

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While it can be difficult to embrace their inaccurate preconceptions of you, remember, their view is re-enforced by the observations they make when they see you; basically, when you are feeling well.

Ebb and Flow
Ebb and Flow

What’s important to realize that those who don’t understand, don’t have to have a say in your reality. Because one doesn’t think it so, doesn’t make it true, a fact we often forget.

Now does this mean you have to abandon a great friendship? Not from my point of view; we all have elements of being human that are not desirable., they are worthy of forgiveness. They can like it or they can hate it, you set the boundaries and go from there.

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Your priority is to understand that this ebb and flow is real and it does, in fact, take you out; we must get the help we need and when our mental health conditions can’t be helped; we need to ride the wave.

On a positive note, you are under no obligation to accept unfamiliar people into your life if you discover that they are not supportive or they are just downright mean.

if you can “get Over” your anxiety and depression, LUCKILY for you its not CHRONIC.

But John, how can you tell? Well, in my experience, when a person discovers you have a mental illness and has a view that somehow, willing it away is all one needs to do to get “over it” they will hesitate and verbally dance around the subject in an attempt to feel you out. The end goal? Is to figure out the best way to share their opinion; some voice it others don’t; whist others are trying to tell you you’re faking it.

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So please, don’t despair over the words of others. What you are going through is real, you can’t wish it away and you certainly can’t snap out of it. The ebb and flow of mental illness shows us just how real it is.

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I have too much living to do.

I have too much living to do.

I may be in the middle of battling PTSD right now but I will squeeze all my living in when I’m better.

Someday I will kick mental illness’s ass. Although I feel like the odds are against me, it can be and must be done; I have too much living to do yet.

But, in order to win the day, I have to defy the rules, be “that guy” that stands in opposition to the established norms. No, it’s not about going after the man, nor is it taking up the fight for social justice.

The fight I am speaking of is the battle within. More specifically than that, I must win the fight over mental illness’s manipulation. I must stand up to the power of PTSD and say, I am no longer your slave; depression, I will no longer bent to your will and anxiety, you’ve navigated my self speak and self-worth for far too long.

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I don’t know about you but I’m tired of being held hostage by what lies between my ears. Not only am I fed up with it, but I am also desperately wanting to reclaim my life; aren’t you?

I argue yes, that’s exactly what’s happening.

But, in order to do accomplish this feat, we must understand that those thoughts that bounce around inside, the ones that hold us back are bull; I believe the modern term is fake news.

Many mental health conditions are like gaslighters from the inside out; whereas, gaslight usually occurs from the outside in. People who gaslight do so to the degree where one questions their sanity.

I have too much living to do.
Go live your life.

Sound familiar? It seems sometimes that our brains hate us but in reality, we have conditioned it to feel like no one likes us or that we aren’t good enough. Trouble is, what we think about long enough, we start to believe.

“I know I have worth, passion and goals.”

Since I have too much living to do to let this manipulation go on any longer, I have decided to fight back. I know, I know, how on earth do you do that? am I right?

Well, for starters, can you really say that EVERYONE hates you? Or, is it our disorders talking? Are we being duped into thinking that we are worthless? I argue yes, that’s exactly what’s happening.

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We start by paying more attention to the voice that disagrees with these lies. Sure, it may seem smaller and more off in the distance but it is indeed your authentic voice; essentially, that disempowered voice is the real you. Additionally, once you hear yourself in the background saying; ‘I know I’m a good person.” and or; “I know I have worth, passion and goals.”

So, what will digging through the deception do for you? See, the more you listen passed the noise of mental illness and start paying more attention to the real you, that tiny, tired out voice will get louder and more confident; before you know it, you’re starting to believe your truth.

In reality, it all comes down to who do you want in the driver’s seat? A voice hell-bent on running you into the wall or you; heading to a destination that brings you peace and happiness? Personally, I have too much living to do to allow my life to be hijacked; I’m willing to bet that you do too.

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Anxiety in the New Age

Anxiety in the New Age

Anxiety in the new age.

Just a few short months ago, I was waging war against the most formidable foe I have ever encountered; Myself. Although this fight against PTSD, anxiety and depression has been exhausting; at least I knew what I was up against and how to mitigate its damage. But now I stand face to face with a new and unfamiliar enemy; That of anxiety in the new age.

Well, to be fair, I am dancing with an old enemy, just one on steroids; a mutated version of my old nemesis; generalized anxiety disorder. This new age has made my anxiety so strong that I have a difficult time recognizing It. Moreover, my coping tools that were once so effective in against GAD, prove to be no match.

What you are feeling is a normal reaction to an abnormal situation.

See, times have changed and whether you have an anxiety disorder or not, you are undoubtedly feeling the near-constant fear your anxiety produces. Angst is a “fight, flight or freeze response, it’s what kept your ancestors alive back in the day. However, In more modern times, such as the era we all find ourselves living in, its side effects manifest themselves in two ways.

Anxiety in the New Age

Firstly, loss of control. We are social creatures and need connection because of it. Our free will to move about has seriously impacted, leaving us feeling a little trapped and powerless. The good news? It’s absolutely normal to feel this way. Perhaps we can find comfort in evaluating how we are feeling. In other words, If you are feeling powerless, is this an inappropriate response given the times we are living in? Of course not. What you are feeling is a normal reaction to an abnormal situation. It’s ok, to feel this way, it’s normal so please, don’t be too hard on yourself for it.

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The second thing that tends to heighten anxiety is fear of the unknown. Fear of the unknown is such vast territory in terms of where your imagination can roam, it’s just scary. How will I pay my bills? When will I get to see my friends and family? Will I miss out on that vacation I’ve been planning? So many unknowns. What makes not knowing so problematic is that with each question comes a fictitious story that we build up around them. for example, you may start to construct a fantasy around that vacation. “What if we are housebound till June when I am supposed to go?” “I bet I won’t be able to go!” “Damn, I have been saving for years, of course, this virus would do this to me.” Now you’re at a constant level eight on the anxious scale.

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This one’s dangerous because of its limitless fuel to keep anxiety revving on high. In my experience, the best way to turn down the dial is to practice mindfulness; taking time to focus on the now. Another way to dampen down this fire in the mind is to do a gratefulness inventory. Simply close your eyes and think of everyone and everything you are grateful for; this exercise is especially great when your head hits the pillow.

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My hot mess, an example of success.

Before I leave you, I want to share my story of how I drifted off to sleep last night despite my anxiety tearing through my head like an asshole tornado. Like many of you, I am feeling the pinch if powerlessness and as a result, my anxiety disorder has set up permanent shop. And, as well all know, it’s also a nighthawk and runs full steam ahead as soon as your head hits the pillow. Man, I hate that. But, with the gratefulness inventory, I was able to slide into slumber. Instead of fixating on the unprecedented health crisis that lay just beyond my door, I started to think of all things great in my life. my list looked like this

  1. I was safe and warm
  2. I was with my partner and cat.
  3. My kids and other loved ones are healthy and safe.
  4. We both have an income right now.
  5. I live in a great country and am better off than many.
  6. I have wonderful, supportive friends.
  7. We have technology so we all can keep connected.

My list ended up being longer then this, that’s what I love about this method. The list just snowballs once you start taking inventory of all the things that truly matter. The ultimate benefit, however, is how effective it is. Before I knew it, my mind was quiet, my dread had dissipated and I fell fast to sleep, filled with feelings of love and safety. This is how I plan to deal with anxiety in the new age.

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