What's wrong with that guy?

What’s wrong with that guy?

What’s wrong with that guy?

You hear it often nowadays, “we are living in different times.” I hear this often from people when they are doing their best to avoid getting too close; thank you COVID-19. It’s one of the truer statements one makes in this era of deception and fake news.

Unfortunately, one of humans fundamental flaws, besides being easily led a stray, is complacency. Take my corner of the world for example, we have experienced a really low number of cases of the virus. It’s true that our governments have done a great job of keeping us safe but its ultimately up to the people to hold the line and do what needs to be done. If not, we risk a major health crisis here too.

Yet, I see more and more people blatantly and foolishly disregarding what needs to be done. This is especially true of the young. With an Uptake in case across Canada, We must do better. Please, if you’re not an infectious disease specialist, don’t make your own conclusions about how transmission happens.

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For example, because your area might have low numbers or even zero cases, doesn’t mean that we can lower our guards. Remember, COVID-19 came all the way from China and infected the world in a matter of months; Months! Also, just because you are young, doesn’t somehow exempt you from contracting or spreading it; so, WEAR A MASK!

But John, WHAT DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH MENTAL HEALTH?

Well, nothing really, except that when I am sitting in a busy café and more than half of the customs walking in without masks, I go into disaster mode. I saw an even higher percentage of kids not wearing a mask either.

Right or wrong, my blood boiled ever hotter the more and more bared faced people walking through the door. I tried to contain the PTSD range, I really did, but alas, my experience of watching people die slowly with phenomena overtook me. Finally, I jumped up out of my seat and yelled, “Where the Fu** are your masks?”

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One young person admitted she didn’t even have one. Sadly, but not surprisingly, my displeasure was met with smiles and laughter. I didn’t care then and I don’t care now. I felt panicked and not safe. In fact, the more complacency sets in with folks, the more unsafe I feel; not only for myself, but for all those whose are immune systems are compromised. I bet instead of them considering the validity of my concerns, they probably thought; “What’s wrong with that guy?”

What's wrong with that guy?
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Let’s see, What’s wrong with that guy? Humm, well, PTSD, a mental disorder that I earned with distinction that’s what. I want to spend the rest of my days painful and death-free. A tall order I know, but a panic driven concern that can send me in to a fit of anger. It really is bigger than me sometimes.

If my own mental history weren’t enough, the accumulation of recklessness on behalf of my fellow human beings can send me to a point of no return. I really do hate it but sometimes, it will rear its ugly head.

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So, if you ever see someone loosing it on someone, especially over something like mask wearing and or other legit safety concerns; don’t ask, “What’s wrong with that guy? Instead, ask yourself, what has he been through? And is what he is angry about valid?

Please, be safe and I beg you, please think of others…. Take care!

In those momenets

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Lemonade Stand: Vol. III 

Created by Josh Rivedal and Kathleen Myre, Lemonade Stand: Vol. III is a compilation of 20 stories from those who have served in the emergency services and the military.  In it, the authors talk about their battles with PTSD, a debilitating and for many, a life-long mental illness.  So, if you are from the military or emergency service’s, perhaps this book can help you combat the feelings of isolation and fear that frequently comes with post-traumatic stress disorder. Sometimes, just knowing that there are others out there, just like you, can provide you with the strength and courage to speak up and or get the help you need. The intention of this book is to help with that…. You’re not alone.

Also, Lemonade Stand: Vol III was written to help combat the stigma that often accompanies mental illness, best of all, it attempts to give all you served their countries and communities a voice… Which is amazing!

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tiered system

Two Tiered system

How can we help the maximum amount of people with a two tiered system?

It should surprise no one that 2020 is one for the history books. I mean, whoever thought wearing a mask would become a standard accessory? Not me, so many changes. Sadly though, so much has remained the same. From my view, many of the things that need to change to keep us safe are being neglected. Most notable are the two tiered system we are all forced to live with.

For me, when the pande`mic began, I was, like many of you, scared to death. I thought to myself, “What the hell is going on?” The world as I knew it seemed to make a permanent change overnight. If it weren’t permanent, other things about COVID-19 got penned under the category of undetermined.

Experts warn that mental illness will be the next pandemic

The best example I can think of for this was the quarantine. No one could tell us how long we would remain in our homes. Although being stuck within the four walls of my home at the time was painful; it was not as painful for me as it was for most; I assume. Living with PTSD, I prefer the solitude that only being at home brings.

For me, being isolated was easy on my battle with PTSD. My depressive disorder, however, not so much. That was hell; its flames fuelled by the chronic worry that only clinical anxiety can bring.

Essentially, I was a hot mess but as up and down as I was; I could still put a lot of energy into thinking about how we can use those tragic times to identify some of society’s biggest social challenges or the lack thereof. Maybe this is exactly the type of thing we needed to force the changes that would better everyone’s lives.

tiered system
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Having what seemed like all the time in the world to solve these things, I concluded that this two tiered system has left the vulnerable even more so. What’s worse, a pandemic will leave an untold amount of people who lost loved ones and their jobs in this vulnerable category.I thought this is the time to push because this influx would have to get addressed.

Having said that, I am a mental health advocate; I have spent a lot of my time thinking about the potential damage COVID-19 would have on the pre pandemic and post pandemic populations. The ramifications, I thought, will be enormous.

Coping with mental illness during the pandemic

So, after all that thinking, what did I conclude? I saw that the current mental health system as insufficient. What I was two main issues; One, the public system is severely under-funded and two, the private mental health care sector is too expensive for the many who were already suffering from a mental health condition. Now, as the dust settles and we are free to move about; many more people are in desperate for help. Makes sense, right? But if this broken, two tiered system was failing us before COVID, it was sure to leave those in need out in the cold afterwards.

THE IMPACT OF COVID-19 ON THE MENTALLY ILL.

Being through the public system, I saw how precarious it was before the world ground to a halt. So many people turned away or otherwise discouraged because of the long wait times that they give up trying.A sad and disturbing reality.

With this in mind, the pandemic excited me in a sense because I hoped that governments and citizens alike would see this two tiered system for what it is, divisive, costly and morally wrong.

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Unfortunately, the “new normal” seems to only consist of social distancing and mask wearing. Other than that, it’s business as usual. What does this mean for us? Well, from my perspective, it’s also business as usual. So far, there has been no move to increase mental health funding, no legislative move to make the system accessible to everyone, and no outcry to demand change…. We can do and must do better.

However, we live in a society where money will always trump compassion and thus funding will always flow away from the right thing and into the corporate branch of our society. That is precisely why we need to merge our voices as one and insist on the necessary changes needed to get away from this two tiered system.

Checkout the book I helped to write:

Lemonade Stand: Vol. III 

Created by Josh Rivedal and Kathleen Myre, Lemonade Stand: Vol. III is a compilation of 20 stories from those who have served in the emergency services and the military.  In it, the authors talk about their battles with PTSD, a debilitating and for many, a life-long mental illness.  So, if you are from the military or emergency service’s, perhaps this book can help you combat the feelings of isolation and fear that frequently comes with post-traumatic stress disorder. Sometimes, just knowing that there are others out there, just like you, can provide you with the strength and courage to speak up and or get the help you need. The intention of this book is to help with that…. You’re not alone.

Also, Lemonade Stand: Vol III was written to help combat the stigma that often accompanies mental illness, best of all, it attempts to give all you served their countries and communities a voice… Which is amazing!

Pre order today

If you are struggling please go here for help: Crisis Services Canada

OR

Checkout our Mental Health Resources Page

Contact me on my Facebook page: The Road To Mental Wellness

The new way to therapy

the new way to therapy

Our lives have changed so much in such a short period of time; forcing us to be creative in almost every facet of lives. However, some of these alterations I just can’t warm up to; the new way to therapy is one of them.

The benefits of online therapy.

With that said, if I didn’t have access to my psychologist; I’m fairly certain that my PTSD would rule over me like a fifteenth-century king. I would have little chance of surviving this chaotic time.

the new way to therapy still has real value.

In fact, I can say with a great deal of certainty that I would not get through. But, thankfully I am coping. Hey, it may not be ideal, but the new way to therapy, at least it’s something. So, I chose to be grateful For anything that will help see me through; I will be taking stalk of all things that matter and indeed; those things that ease the burden.

On the other side of the coin, looking at someone on a computer screen just doesn’t feel authentic; thus, I don’t feel like I am not getting the most out of the sessions.

Despite this fact, I remind myself that we don’t always have control over our lives; as much as I wish this wasn’t the case, it is, so I do what I must.

In my life’s journey, I have learned that I must do whatever it takes to make things better.”

As we all should, this is not the time to out and out reject the help we get or have access to; its a time to grin and bear it; do the best we can and pick up the pieces when this worldwide health emergency ends, and it will end.

The new way to therapy.

I am not at all surprised to hear that others are finding certain things less helpful for them now than before; almost daily we hear of another tragic aspect to COVID -19 and, well, quite frankly, personally it’s getting more and more difficult to combat my depression. I assume you are feeling it too.

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How then, do we ever expect to get out of this and ever expect to recover? I think the answer is, we may not make a full recovery. By that, I mean the world we once knew will be a world we leave behind. In the interim, we have to use whatever is at our disposal to help us navigate through the unimaginable. Sometimes, getting through this will be a moment by moment thing. However, we will get through it.

Just don’t give up; a window can become a door; a simple coffee can bring a sense of normality and a video connection with a mental health professional can pull you into the light. In other words, the new way to therapy still has real value.

COVID-19 and your mentaL health

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