authenticity be the way to healing

Authenticity the way to healing?

Authenticity, the way to healing? What do you think?

When I look back on my life, I think of how often I roamed through the world hiding my true self. For years, I just hid, doing what I didn’t want to do. The thing that held me in place? Fear. But maybe it’s deeper than that, I think when I was younger, I believed that my passions were little more than pipe dreams, not something worth chasing.

For far too long I allowed my thoughts to consume me over how people viewed me. Moreover, I grew up with a whole host of socially scripted narratives; expectations of who I was supposed to be and how I was expected to carry myself.

In my view, this is a flawed way to think. Even so, we continue to lay the groundwork for how we expect the next generation to conduct themselves. For example, there is a lot of pressure to go to college, get a good job and so on. If one just follows this well-worn path, they will find happiness. But is trampling down the same street as everyone else really the answer for everyone?

Follow your own way

Sure, there are undoubtedly many who find fulfillment while subscribing to this traditional and predetermined way forward; but for those who have a deep urging for something different, their way forward seems forced.

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Could it be possible that if people were free to go their own way, that mental illness could be alleviated? Could authenticity be the way to healing?

I am of the option that it just might. When we go against the grain of what we really want out of life, whether it be a career choice or a way of being, if denied, it could produce anxiety. What’s more, eventually those of us who don’t fit the standard box, may become depressed.

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If this sounds like you, could releasing your authenticity be the way to healing for you? Could giving yourself permission to be the real you, the one hiding just below the surface be your way to happiness?

Your own road to mental wellness may very well be the road of going your own way. So, you do the real you and do what your heart is aching for, you may just find the fog of mental illness start to lift.

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3 Things That Heighten My Gratitude

Out with the negative script and in with the good. discover the 3 things at heighten my gratitude.

Last Christmas I wrote a piece called I Feel Nothing For Christmas. Sadly, At the time, I was in a lengthy and very painful depressive episode; an episode that robbed me of the one holiday I love. Despite this, I forced a smile and went through the motions, but it was all robotic and insincere.

In contrast, this Christmas, the joy and love for the season made a welcomed return. However, the road from twenty-nineteen to the Christmas of twenty-twenty, hasn’t been an easy one; not for me and certainly not for anyone else either.

While COVID-19 spread across the world, not once but twice, our lives were lite afire; our loved ones suffered and cases of mental illness grew exponentially. I mean, how can it not? Every day, we hear about its tragic reality.

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Yet, despite this, the difference between how I was feeling last year and how I feel today are literally night and day. Normally, I would be analyzing why I am experiencing such a stark contrast, but this year? I refuse to.

Instead, I chose to embrace the triumphant return of my ability to feel. If I have leaned anything from my slow walk down the road to mental wellness, it’s this: Sometimes, too much thinking can lead one down the rabbit hole, a dark place that, when things are contemplated on for too long, can put you right where you don’t want to be; in a depressive mindset.

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In my case, if I choose to put my energy into trying to discover the difference from one year to the next, I would slip. Essentially, my mind would slowly access the feeling of ole; bring them to the fore, and I would feel as I did last year. Nope, not happening.

Its effects are too damaging and only rob me of my joy. Therefore, I chose to just let it be. Instead, I invested my limited energy into the feelings produced by the now; by the joy I am feeling. Essentially, I got my mojo back. That’s the only thing that matters.

Staying focused in the now.

Sure, saying I choose to say in the here and now easy to say, but what about actually being able to do so? That’s the hard part. Here are the 3 ways I work on staying in the now.

1. Acknowledging.

Firstly, it’s helpful to know that humans’ attention will wander. We can not prevent thoughts from floating into our minds. It’s just how the dammed thing works. But once we acknowledge this fact, we can start to be more mindful of them and thus push them aside and focus on, in my case, embracing the fact that I feel great this holiday season.

2. Calling to attention.

We want to prioritize all the thoughts we are having that are enhancing our mood, not have intrusive ones that hinder that. For example, This is the first time in years that I woke up on Christmas day at my parents’ house. This made me feel a sense of gratitude. I mean, in the middle of a pandemic I was able to share my first waking moments with the two people whom I love and who have done more for me than anyone. I made sure that I call to attention this memory. Furthermore, as I replay this joyous moment in time, I still feel its beauty. It is but one thing that keeps the good feelings rolling.

3. Continuously running through my gratefulness inventory.

Many years ago, I decided that I would keep a list of all the things I am grateful for. While this may seem difficult at first for those who have never done one, it does get easier with practice. In order to maximize its effectiveness, I include anything and everything good in my life; no matter how small or seemingly insignificant. In addition, as good things happen, I am continuously updating the list. More fuel for the positivity fire.

Conclusion

There you have it, the 3 things at heighten my gratitude. Before I go, I want to leave you with a final example of what I’m grateful for. This year I spent Christmas with my kids at my ex’s home. What made it even more wonderful was my parents also joined us. It was amazing, having the kids entire family, both their mom and their dad’s sides under the same roof. How can it get any better?

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The result of compiling a list and reviewing it are surprisingly effective to keep the good mood rolling. When I read it back and reflect on the things on it, like moments such as the ones here, It takes me further away from the negative inner script. To be more specific, it keeps depression and the imagery that comes with PTSD out of my head; if only for a while.

Finally, Our mission should be to live. Ruminating and living life off a script of negativity, will degrade one’s sense of overall well-being, cause one to miss out on the moments that make life great and worst of all, it will keep them stuck. Therefore, in order to break free from its grasp. Taking stock will help us to embrace the beautiful moment’s life throws our way. For they are our true gifts, a fact I never want to lose sight of.

Life is but a series of moments, make every one of them count.

Jonathan Arenburg.

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The Road To Mental Wellness – The Book

Cover reveal

I am excited to announce that I will be revealing my first book cover in mid January. Called The Road To Mental Wellness, it chronicles my lifelong battles with mental illness. It’s goal? To help others by telling my story…. Check back for updates. However, if you would like to see it sooner, simply subscribe to The Road To Mental Wellness email list and I will be more than happy  to send you the exclusive first look at it.

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we need to take care of one another.

we need to take care of one another.

With back to back tragedies like covid and the mass shooting In Canada; we will feel the psychological fallout from them. That’s why now, more than ever, we need to take care of one another.

Yesterday, was a heartbreaking day for my home province of Nova Scotia, Canada; a horrific crime occurred here that has left at least seventeen people dead; including one RCMP officer. This senseless act was perpetrated by a lone gunman who was later killed by the police. Today, the entire province morns their loss and shares the pain of their loved ones. We hold you in our thoughts. Now, more than ever, we need to take care of one another.

In tragic times like these, the psychological fallout can be and surely will be enormous; impacting people much harder then one would anticipate. If you find yourself overcome with a sense of sadness, its ok, in fact, it’s normal.

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While this reaction is unavoidable for many, I think it’s important to emphasize the word normal. A good way to think about it is to think about what happens when you flick on a light switch; the now opened circuit sends the flow of electricity to the bulb. This action and reaction is the natural consequence of “flicking the switch.”

Similarly, when we hear news of such an unprecedented and unthinkable act such as this, our central nervous system reacts in the way in which it was designed. In other words, the sadness, the numb feeling and the level of overall impact it delivers are all appropriate.

It’s ok to feel the way you are feeling. Information on critical incident stress here

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we need to take care of one another.

With that said, please don’t allow your sense of guilt to take priority to the degree where you fail to get the help you need. While it’s true that many will not require any intervention, many people will. Such help can be found at Nova Scotia Mental Health and Addictions.

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Personally, I recommend that if how you are still experiencing intense feelings for more than a week, it’s worth getting in touch with a mental health professional to help determine the severity incident’s psychological impact. Of course, if you are having thoughts of suicide, call 911 0r your local mental health crisis line immediately.

An unprecedented time, a uncomprehensable incident.

To make matters worse, we have had our lives severely impacted by this most unprecedented time; I’m speaking of course, of the COVID-19 outbreak. This pandemic has already doled out a level of fear that hasn’t been experienced since the second world war. As a result, the mental pain pump was already primed and causing its own brand of trauma.

As a result, the uncertainty that it has produced has brought fear and worry for those we love to the forefront. Not only has it left us in a perpetual state of concern for those we hold dearest; it has also robbed us of our sense of control over our own lives and at the same time deprives us of that personal connection we are designed to experience.

How to regain control durning COVID-19

So, what COVID-19 has done has essentially knocked the psychological wind out of us and in the process, leaving us more vulnerable to further mental health injury.

How then, do we make sense of it all? Firstly, we may never come to understand why such rare and heartbreaking events happen; its almost impossible to make sense out of the senseless. However, I do think now, more than ever, we need to take care of one another by offering support and understanding. These are the most trying and challenging times in anyone’s memory. So please be kind. Be kind, not only yourself but be easy on one other.

In times of great uncertainty and monumental pain, we need to take care of one another.

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