Having spent many years in the #emergencyservices, I know first-hand what hard choices are. Sometimes, in life, you have to do whatever it takes. Here’s what I’ve learned.
Having spent many years in the #emergencyservices, I know first-hand what hard choices are. When it comes to life and death, one doesn’t have the luxury to avoid what lies before them.
In fact, if one was to ever decide against going against the odds, they would most certainly face disciplinary action. I mean, could you imagine one of us saying, “I’m not preforming CPR on that guy”? Even though we wanted to turn and run at times, we all understood that our purpose was to make order out of chaos. So, we accepted that in our profession, our lives may be on the line.
We simply accepted the risk. We did so knowing that, sometimes, life doesn’t care how we felt, and that some things are bigger than us. Therefore, we must do “whatever it takes.”
“Do whatever it takes.” A mantra, and dare I say a necessity? My years in the #fireserivce have taught me some of the most invaluable life lessons. And man, I am ever so grateful. While I have struggled with my own mental health for years, it’s this four-word sentence that has kept me going.
Yes, I owe my survival to the “life doesn’t care how you think it should go” as well; life just does what it does. What’s more, is that the tough times we run up against can be made worse by the choices we make. Or the ones we don’t.
For example, I didn’t ask to be taken down by PTSD, yet I can’t expect inaction to make it better either. They say time heals all wounds, a statement I solidly disagree with. Rather, I feel that it’s what you do that heals you over time that makes the difference.
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In my book, The Road To Mental Wellness, I talk about the knockdown, drag-out fight I’ve had with mental illness. Don’t get me wrong – there were times when I was too sick to fight, but all and all, I have been given er hell. Feeling exhausted? Don’t worry, it’s your body and mind telling you, you need some #selfcare
However, in order to keep fighting, I had to accept that I couldn’t stay on my knees for long. After all, I had a life I wanted back, and a plan that only included avoidance wasn’t going to save me. Sadly, many have lost their battle while swimming in the sea of denial – preferring instead to let go and sink.
With that said, I know that many others have fought the good fight and could no longer handle the relentless mental pain that eats at you day and night.
What I am saying is that we owe it to ourselves to fight until we can’t fight any longer. And when we can’t fight any longer? We fight to live for those we love. For they too, have a lot emotionally invested in our Well-being. We all need anchor points
Finally, you don’t have to be a firefighter to “do whatever it takes.” Do the following and keep doing whatever it takes to get them done:
- Regulate your sleep
- Eat a clean(er) diet
- Therapy – go!
- Social interaction
- Connection to others.
- Stop the self-blaming
- Learn the language of mental illness – When Depression Speaks.
“Never giving up means being consistent. Didn’t get to the gym for a few days? Go today. Doing whatever it takes + never giving up on yourself = slow and gradual success.Jonathan Arenburg – Author of The Road To Mental Wellness