Burnout and Women – Who’s that girl? – There are many factors that change a woman’s life. Education, work, family, marriage, divorce. What’s more, the woman is, or has been perceived as, adaptable and multitasking, family first.
However, what often gets missed is the role of a “mother”, or society expecting you to be a mother. There are many women perfectly content in not having children, and this is acceptable, those who choose “motherhood” are riddled with many job titles. If you are a “Mom” you are a teacher, doctor, driver, negotiator, cook, housekeeper and working professional. Burnout is real.
So, what happens to ‘Her’? “Who is that girl?” The woman you knew who gave her all, the wonder woman. Well, more times than not, self-care gets put on the backburner. Furthermore, she will be judged for it. No questions, just comments like ‘what happened to you?” She was taking over the world but decided to take care of herself for a change.
Furthermore, holding this title, regardless if you are a mom or not, can lead to serious depression and guilt. Guilt that you are no longer able to take care of everyone else, guilt that you are focusing on yourself instead of others; that you are not as good as you thought you were. This is a power mind game, and can lead to serious anxiety and depression, but can be worked with. As I was told, by a great woman, “If you cannot take care of yourself, how can you take care of others?”
Finally, it is OK to take care of yourself, to change your direction even if it isn’t that of the status quo. It’s OK to talk to others and seek guidance. It is OK to be YOU.
Checkout It’s the journey not the destination – Written by contributing writer – Parika Bhatli
When I went off work because of PTSD, I was left in limbo while I waited to see if I would be awarded Workers Compensation. It was long and painful, hanging in the darkness of my home.
So, I began to try and figure out this PTSD thing; how did I get here? I was a firefighter, so I knew that much but my battled with anxiety and depression was a life-long battle.
I began to write out my story, mostly to help quell the angst of being lonely and in mental illness purgatory. It helped – immensely. I survived the dark because of it.
Now, it’s here – written for therapeutic intervention and published in hopes that it can do the same for you or someone you know…..