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Do you feel stuck?

Do you feel stuck? if so, why? In this post, I explore one of the many reasons we often feel like we've lost ourselves. What do you think?

Do you feel stuck? If so, why? In this post, I explore one of the many reasons we often feel like we’ve lost ourselves. What do you think?

Do you feel stuck? Like you were born to do something else? Well, believe it or not, this “feeling” is not an uncommon one. In fact, I’d be willing to wager that there are even more who feel like they aren’t living as their nature intended.

In other words, they have a deep and sometimes lonely void nagging at them to be freed. Perhaps you can relate? Maybe you have an ever-present feeling of “None of this feels right to me.” Well, fear not – if this sounds like you, I may have an answer.

Although I can’t really speak for you personally, I can, nonetheless, suggest or take a guess as to what could be pulling at your shirtsleeve like an inquisitive toddler. Firstly, I must ask you this: have you sacrificed your own destiny for everyone around you?

If your answer to this question is yes, then you have your answer to my original question; Do you feel stuck?

Now that we have determined why you harass yourself from sunup to sundown, let’s ask why. Again, keep in mind that I am merely playing a hunch, so I could be way off base here. For some, I suspect that I am, but for others? Well, I think this may resonate.

Nonetheless, let’s give it a shot. Hey, I know – let’s do it in story form. Ready?

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Where I went awry:

Once upon a time, I dreamed of being a ____________________. The joy that I got just from wanting to do __________________________, made me work hard and with purpose.

Then I grew up. And along the way, I painfully learned that the pressure to conform to tradition, took my passion and deflated it, just enough to pack it deep inside. Yes – marriage, kids, a home, and a fancy car became me, or at least what I thought was at my core… Boy, was I wrong!

Eventually, I faked “happy,” when in reality, all I wanted to do was __________________________. But I was always told that it didn’t pay enough, that kids are the centre of the universe, and that I needed a partner to be happy. Essentially, happiness is a constant state. Something that – if I worked hard at all these things – I would obtain someday.

In reality, I was slipping further and further into depression, but the world needed me to manufacture the appearance of “happy”… as if joy was some sort of achievement as opposed to a fluid emotion… I denied my authentic self for so long and I hurt, each and every day…..
For me, when I figured it all out, I felt I betrayed myself and was lied to, all my life. Both of these factors crushed into a mold to which I did not fit.
See, I sacrificed me for a house I did not want, a great-paying job that I hated and a relationship I had no time for….. And I FUC@# hated it!

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Now, I am happy! And you wanna know why? Because I walked away from the misery of a life I was forced to foster, a world for everyone else. Sure, it was tough, but I knew that this crap life was going to shorten my own life expectancy.

Happy to say that I braved it, and I went and did whatever it took to realize my dream and thus let lose my authentic self…. Now, I am doing ___________________, and I love it… I am happy more often and I love going to work

Finally – I am Me!

When I went off work because of PTSD, I was left in limbo while I waited to see if I would be awarded Workers Compensation. It was long and painful, hanging in the darkness of my home.

So, I began to try and figure out this PTSD thing; how did I get here? I was a firefighter, so I knew that much but my battled with anxiety and depression was a life-long battle.

I began to write out my story, mostly to help quell the angst of being lonely and in mental illness purgatory. It helped – immensely. I survived the dark because of it.

Now, it’s here – written for therapeutic intervention and published in hopes that it can do the same for you or someone you know…..

“you’re not alone on your Road To Mental Wellness.”


So, I ask you again, do you feel stuck? Like the real you has been forced to be repressed so that you can fit in a box” Someone else’s box? If so, it will take courage and time, but you CAN set yourself free.

Here’s to a road to mental wellness that makes you increasingly happy and fulfilled.

Jonathan Arenburg

Jonathan Arenburg is a mental-health blogger, writer, Wellness coach and published author – appearing in the i’Mpossible’s Lemonade Stand III. He has also been a contributing writer for Mental Health Talk, a column in his local paper. In addition, he has also written for the mental-health advocacy organization Sick Not Weak.

Jonathan has also appeared on several mental health-related podcasts Including: A New Dawn, The Depression Files, Books and Authors, and Men Are Nuts. Since being put off work because of PTSD, Jonathan has dedicated his time to his mental-wellness journey while helping others along the way.

Educated as an addictions counsellor, he has dedicated most of his professional life of eighteen years to working with those who have intellectual disabilities, behavioural challenges, and mental illness.

He has also spent fifteen years in the volunteer fire service helping his community.

His book The Road To Mental Wellness goes into detail about his life-long battle with depression, anxiety and more recently, PTSD. In it, he hopes to provide insight on how mental illness cultivates over a lifetime and, if not recognized and treated, how it impacts the entirety of one’s life – right from childhood into the adult years. Jonathan lives with his two children in Nova Scotia, Canada.
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