The whole ideology of me-time is to take that time out for yourselves, reflect on what’s happening to you, listen to your body, and see what you need to look for. So, make time for yourself.Tweet
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Hey folks, I hope you are doing just fine and taking very good care of yourselves and your loved ones. October tends to be my birthday month, and like one excited kid, I have always looked forward to my birthday. However, life happened in between, especially the last two years where I battled against depression, and all my focus was just to breathe and live because no matter what, life goes on. The last two birthdays have taught me a lot about mental health, my journey to defeat depression and the idea of why one celebrates their birthday.
Like my younger self, I always thought birthdays was a day where you got all pampered by your loved ones and got the gifts and blessings. But eventually, as I grew older, I realised with time that isn’t birthdays are the reminder that you are alive; Alive to experience the new possibilities life holds for you. Living to share the love one gets and deserves. Alive to just breathe and sail through no matter the situation because some things cannot be taught; they must be experienced. You never learn the most valuable lessons in life until you go through your journey. And that’s one of the biggest life lessons I have learned with time.
Today’s blog is all about one of the biggest life lessons I have encountered in my journey, i.e. me time! You must have heard this term on various social media platforms in the forms of quotes, captions, hashtags, reels, etc., but what does it mean? For me, the idea of me-time varies from one individual to another because everyone perceives me time in their comfortable ways. An example, for someone, their me-time can involve socialising with strangers and getting to know them. For some, it’s just Netflix and sleep; for some, it’s making reels?
For some, it might involve cooking/baking, etc. For me, my me time has two versions of it. The first version consists of writing my journal cuddling my pet, reading, and sometimes just being on roads and observing even the tiniest of things moving. The second version consists in helping people because it makes me feel calm and happy that I could just help someone in the slightest way possible. After all, I know how much courage it takes to speak up and ask for help. So, my me time’s second version is my goal in life to tell people that they aren’t alone in the fights they are encountering or the situations they deal with. One thing that is clearer to me every day is how much we all have in common, and one of those commonalities is that we all think we are alone. But we are not.
The whole ideology of me-time is to take that time out for yourselves, reflect on what’s happening to you, listen to your body, and see what you need to look for. Sometimes, you get caught up in your work life, relationships, and other commitments so much that you tend to forget yourself. I have been through that road, and it wasn’t good. I lost myself because I did not listen to my body when it needed the utmost attention. So please, don’t do that. Don’t neglect when your body physically, mentally, or emotionally tells you to take that break. Sometimes it does get hard to listen to yourself, but you need to take that deep breath and say to yourself, you deserve that break; you deserve to do nothing for a day.
Many would relate with one of the famous Calvin and Hobbes comic strips that, read where Calvin diligently studies his calendar. Hobbes stands beside Calvin, full of anticipation. Calvin says: “Well, let’s check my calendar and see what our schedule is for today. Today says do nothing. So does tomorrow and every day after through the end of August.” The whole analogy behind this comic strip is to tell you that we are always busy doing things. Sometimes one should just look at things and think about things without doing something. We often tend to forget the idea that sometimes we just have to breathe, take that pause, and take care of ourselves because nobody’s got you like you got you.
Thoughts, emotions, moods, and memories come, and they go, and basic nowness is always here. It is never too late for any of us to look at our minds. We can always sit down and allow the space for anything to arise. Make some time for yourself today — to relax, reflect and revive your spirit because it’s never too late to make a change and take some much-needed alone time for yourself because you deserve it.
You don’t need to exhaust yourself trying to find your own value. You are not an iPhone needing an upgrade. Your value is not a condition of productivity or exercise or body shape or something you lose via inactivity. Value is not a plate that needs to be continually spun. The value is there. It is intrinsic innate. Is it in the “being” and not the “doing”?
-The comfort book by Matt Haig
Sending you lots of love, hope, positivity and hugs your way. See you next time. ❤
When I went off work because of PTSD, I was left in limbo while I waited to see if I would be awarded Workers Compensation. It was long and painful, hanging in the darkness of my home.
So, I began to try and figure out this PTSD thing; how did I get here? I was a firefighter, so I knew that much but my battled with anxiety and depression was a life-long battle.
I began to write out my story, mostly to help quell the angst of being lonely and in mental illness purgatory. It helped – immensely. I survived the dark because of it.
Now, it’s here – written for therapeutic intervention and published in hopes that it can do the same for you or someone you know…..
“you’re not alone on your Road To Mental Wellness.”