Shut Up and Listen.

Ever feel panic when someone needs your help emotionally? Fear not – all you have to do is shut up and listen.

My run-through life isn’t unlike that of the rest of humanity. Like you, I have had many roadblocks stop me in my tracks. And like you, I have had long periods of sustained joy. While we all experience certain things as a collective – like that of a fingerprint – our roads to mental wellness are unique to each of us. Furthermore, that’s why we need to Shut Up and Listen.

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Because our experiences are all different, we need to understand that the use of the phrase, “I got over it, therefore, you can too,” is mythical. From my point of view, it’s a silly thing to say. Why? Well, because it’s simply dismissive and does nothing to help resolve the sufferer of their pain.

In fact, one’s choice to use dismissive statements only makes things worse. What’s the greatest damage inflicted? Isolation, a sense of “no one cares.” We humans, we tend to turn inward after interactions like this. See, not helpful.

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Once you lose someone because you chose to let them stew in their troubles, it’s very difficult to win them back. While it’s true many don’t have the skill sets to discuss things on an emotional level, we can, however, shut up and listen.

Admittedly, the art of listening is also a skill set that requires practice. However, it’s a heck of a lot easier then learning the skills of a trained psychotherapist. Not only is it easier, it’s just what the sufferer ordered. “To be heard” is huge!

Firstly, it prevents isolation, a move that stalls efforts to move forward and gives a person the feeling that they matter. Finding it super-awkward to take on what someone has to say? That’s understandable. Fortunately, there are ways to work past it.

For instance, try being honest with the person who is seeking to talk to you. Remember, if they are coming to you, that means they trust you. A huge honor and a great opportunity to make a difference. Start off by saying, “I’m not very good at talking about emotional stuff, but I can listen.”

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Oftentimes, people just need to vent and get talking about things to work it out for themselves. I myself will seek the ears of another person so I can work out what’s got me down or anxious. It really is a tremendous help.

Something equally helpful is providing logistical support. One can achieve this by asking, “What can I do to help you? Do you need a ride to an appointment?” Or “Do you need me to make a phone call for you?” If the sufferer is feeling heavy with burdens, this can be a significant boost to their mental health.

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So, in conclusion, sometimes we just must shut up and listen. That’s it, no fancy psychoanalysis, no huge amount of talking, just being present and offering a hand. After all, if we love someone, we want to see them succeed, obtain happiness and be safe.

“Together we can make it better”

Jonathan Arenburg.

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Jonathan Arenburg

Jonathan Reginald-Nixon Arenburg (Born January 14, 1976) is a Canadian mental health blogger, speaker, and published author. Retired from the fire service and long-term care fields, he has written and self-published an autobiographical account of his life-long battle with anxiety, depression and more recently, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Titled, The Road To Mental Wellness, he wrote it for what he calls “therapeutic release.” He published it in hopes it would help others going through similar mental health conditions. The sales of The Road To Mental Wellness have been steady selling over 300 copies since its release on October 10, 2021(World Mental Health Day). Arenburg has also been involved in a collaborative publication Called Lemonade Stand Volume III, a book featuring 20 authors who bravely tell their stories of PTSD. All authors where from the military and or emergency services. Published by Joshua Rivedal and Kathleen Myers for the i’Mpossible project, a mental health advocacy organization. Jonathan has also appeared on several mental health podcasts including The Depression Files, A New Dawn, and The Above Ground Podcast Arenburg has also consulted with the Government of Nova Scotia and the Minister of Mental Health and Addictions, the Honorable Brian Comer and Candidates for the New Democratic Party of Canada, on improving the mental health care system in Canada. Additionally, Jonathan was recognized in The Nova Scotia Legislature by the Honorable, Chris Palmer, Kings-North MLA, for his Book, The Road To Mental Wellness, his fight to make the mental health care system better. In addition, Chis acknowledged the support he gives to others.

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