Can’t Be Cured By Advice

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Despite what people think, a mental-health condition can’t be cured by advice… But I sure wish it could be.

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“I can handle you in small doses.” I often find myself hearing this statement in my mind. But to whom am I referring? Well, the wider world of course. Does this sound familiar to you? I’m sure it must for some. And if so, I hope you are able to get the help you need to make the world more bearable.

In my case, ever since going off work for PTSD, I have worked very hard to find a way back to the living. By that I mean, being able to look the busy world in the eye and say “Today, I own you, not the other way around.” Even though I would love this to be true, it is in reality, not so.

Regardless, I carry on. Often, I hear, “You just got to,” followed by some well-meaning advice from a well-meaning person. But regardless of what they think, the harsh reality is that PTSD, rather a solution to its debilitating effects, is not cured with advice.

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While this is true, what’s equally true is that I don’t have to justify to anyone why I am not working. Furthermore, I can’t control what others think, so why try?

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What I must focus on is the actions I am taking. For instance, I have spent the last few years in therapy trying my best – working to get me into a place where I am functional enough to live again.

While normality is my goal, it is looking less and less like the socially-acceptable norm of a Monday to Friday is possible. Now, this idea terrifies me. Why? Because I want to work, I want to be free of the nightmares, flashbacks, sleepless nights and inability. I mean, who wouldn’t want to be?

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However, despite the fact that I don’t need advice, I do wish that people would not jump to their own, non-professional conclusions. A mental-health condition can’t be cured by advice. Additionally, each person’s journey is different. Oh, and just because, you “had a struggle” and you “got over it” is not, whether you think so or not, a valid reason for you to think that others can too.

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You see, this is where non-clinical, individualist experience doesn’t help. The reasons for anyone’s given struggles that are different from your own are much more complicated. With that said, if one has overcome their challenges and has been better for it, I am truly happy for them. I also can’t help but envy them a bit…

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Although I can’t be cured by advice, I can continue to go to therapy, make improvements in my diet and exercise. Maybe one day I will get there, maybe I am as healed as I’m ever going to be. Whatever the case, I will continue down the road to mental wellness.

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Jonathan Arenburg

Jonathan Reginald-Nixon Arenburg (Born January 14, 1976) is a Canadian mental health blogger, speaker, and published author. Retired from the fire service and long-term care fields, he has written and self-published an autobiographical account of his life-long battle with anxiety, depression and more recently, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Titled, The Road To Mental Wellness, he wrote it for what he calls “therapeutic release.” He published it in hopes it would help others going through similar mental health conditions. The sales of The Road To Mental Wellness have been steady selling over 300 copies since its release on October 10, 2021(World Mental Health Day). Arenburg has also been involved in a collaborative publication Called Lemonade Stand Volume III, a book featuring 20 authors who bravely tell their stories of PTSD. All authors where from the military and or emergency services. Published by Joshua Rivedal and Kathleen Myers for the i’Mpossible project, a mental health advocacy organization. Jonathan has also appeared on several mental health podcasts including The Depression Files, A New Dawn, and The Above Ground Podcast Arenburg has also consulted with the Government of Nova Scotia and the Minister of Mental Health and Addictions, the Honorable Brian Comer and Candidates for the New Democratic Party of Canada, on improving the mental health care system in Canada. Additionally, Jonathan was recognized in The Nova Scotia Legislature by the Honorable, Chris Palmer, Kings-North MLA, for his Book, The Road To Mental Wellness, his fight to make the mental health care system better. In addition, Chis acknowledged the support he gives to others.

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