What we see?

Is what we see, really what’s going on? In this post, I argue that the answer is “no.”

Our eyes: they are the windows to the world. Because of them, you and I can navigate the world and take in its breathtaking beauty. But sadly, what we see isn’t always what’s going on.

While there’s no question that waterfalls are indeed amazing, we, with our not-so-stellar observation skills, see only the rushing water, crashing into the waterway below.

With that said, is that really all there is to see? What else is going on? For instance, we can not see the source of the water flow, nor do we bear witness to the copious amount of erosion happening as the water rushes over the cliff face.

IS what we see, really what’s truly going on?

If our brains were to take in all the surrounding stimulus, we likely would cease to function. Your brain is perfectly adept at deciding what requires your attention and what it can disregard. We as humans are attracted to things that move – a survival instinct that helped get us where we are today.

Why does the brain filter out things? Why does it limit what we see?

Interestingly, there are other things going on that influence our perceptions. Things like good old-fashioned logic. The simplistic view, pun intended, says that what you see is what you get. In other words, our eyes are telling us the entire story – but are they? Is what we see happening really a simple logical deduction? Well, here’s my take on it:

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In my view, mental illness is a great example of the dangers of taking thing at face value. To illustrate what I mean, I will use PTSD as the example.

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Post-traumatic stress disorder comes with a whole host of symptoms. These symptoms include: irritability, nightmares, a heightened startle response and more. None of them are pleasant.

To further demonstrate my point, I will pick on one symptom – the wonderful feeling of the startle response. Besides being very unpleasant for the diagnosed, it can be very problematic for a spouse or other family members.

What those closest see when I am scared by every single bang and clang is the oftentimes very intense reaction – being very vocal, jumping out of my chair, etc.

When you couple all this together, what you get from family members is the “walking on eggshells” reaction, rightfully so. I mean, never knowing what will cause this intense reaction is very difficult.

Help for spouses and family of someone with PTSD

With that said, my goal isn’t to put those I love most in the world on edge. Despite what they see and how they react to it, what’s really going on is that I’m symptomatic. My reactions have nothing to do with them personally and if it were a choice, why would I put my loved ones through such a thing?

It’s true – I get where they are coming from, but there’s more going on here than meets the eye. Therefore, the best advice I can give people trying to love someone with a traumatic injury is this: if you plan to be around for the long haul, you will very likely need support from a mental-health professional; there’s no shame in that.

Even though mental illness is monumentally difficult for everyone impacted by it, those who suffer from a mental-health condition deserve love and support. Equally true, is that those who love us deserve the same.

Lemonade Stand Vol. III

Lemonade Stand Vol. III is a collection of 20 authors who have PTSD because of their military and or emergency services background. They bravely tell their stories in hopes that this will help end stigma within the services and within mental health in general. Its other objective is to give people who are afraid to speak a voice.

When I read the stories from the other authors, it was like I was reading the story of my own struggles. I quickly realized that this book will not only help those with PTSD but may very well provide their spouses and families with insight into their loved one’s mental illness.

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