We can do better

We can do and we must do better.

With all this imposed time on my hands, I can’t help but think of life’s pros and cons; more specifically, how we lived pre virus. Without question, we have a lot of things to be grateful for; before this lockdown, we had convenience at our fingertips, many of us felt safe walking down the street and the option to hang out with people we care about was, in most cases, a quick drive down the road.

These freedoms are all wonderful things and I miss them terribly; pre-pandemic, I was struggling with enjoying them because of PTSD; even then, it was so tough leaving the house but I managed. One of my mental health goals was to get out with friends for coffee at least once a week. It’s these simple things I miss dearly. The lack of connection is taking its toll.

We can do and we must do better.

But what about the cons? I keep asking myself, Should we go back to the way things were? What contributions did our old ways have on our mental health? I can’t help but wonder if it did more harm than good; in fact, I think it did, especially to our mental health.

According to the world health organization, we could have been doing a lot better.

Health systems have not yet adequately responded to the burden of mental disorders. As a consequence, the gap between the need for treatment and its provision is wide all over the world. In low- and middle-income countries, between 76% and 85% of people with mental disorders receive no treatment for their disorder.2

WHO; Mental disorders; 28 November 2019.

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This startling conclusion made by WHO is, in my view, something that I fell we should endeavour to fix once the fog and fear of COVID-19 have lifted. Without question, We can do and we must do better.

Although the mental health impacts of this virus are unknown, some experts are postulating that we will be facing what they describe as the next pandemic; they say that there will be an exponential rise in mental illnesses.

Read more: Mental health, the next pandemic?

what”s causing the rise in mental illness.

From my perspective, the old funding formulary needs to change to maximize mental health support for those who are in need. According to an article in Psychiatric Times, Mental health will cost 16 trillion globally by 2030; TRILLION!

Find the source of their article here:  Lancet Commission on Global Mental Health and Sustainable Development

So, with that, I ask you, what needs to change? Well, it’s worth taking a look at what has contributed to the mental health crisis. For example, our insistence on the value we place on work as we know it. To make matters worse, we have heavily invested in the myth that keeping ourselves busy is “good for us.” A myth that we wrongfully pass on to our children.

Is the amount of planet-killing “valuables” really good for us?

Perhaps the biggest issue I have with this notion is that it’s narrow in its scope and disregards how human beings are wired. Taking on too much produces stress and anxiety, as a result, many will develop an anxiety disorder; this is especially true with young minds. Is going to the point of absolute mental exhaustion really good for us? I think not.

Other contributing factors that may cause one to get sick include but are not limited to:

  • A serve lack of parental guidance: Our children are being raised by anything and everyone but us. A sad truth that can leave coping skills underdeveloped and thus making children more susceptible to anxiety disorders. In fact, a total lack of skills development can only cause them more distress; many kids are growing up disabled by having everything done for them.
  • The advent of social media: Our increasing reliance on it has replaced exercise and has brought everything from wars to bullies into our homes. How can this relentless onslaught of pain and suffering not contribute to one’s mental health decline?
  • Work: If you work Monday to Friday, you will only get eight out of thirty-one days off, eight! That means you spend the majority of your time working. Combine that with running with kids or whatever you do, your mind never gets a chance to rest. Similarly, our kids, some as young as four spend almost eight hours a day in school; they have homework and have extra circular activities on top of that. Again, where do we find the time to rest and be together?
  • Our linear view on the definition of success: Is the amount of planet-killing “valuables” really good for us?
  • Failure to recognize your limits: Remember, we are human, not superhuman; you will need and will have to take, time for yourself if you want to minimize your risks of illness.

“Is how I was living my life pre-pandemic really, the best way to live my life?”

These are but a few examples of how we’ve eroded our mental health; there are indeed many, many more. I think one of the most important questions to ask ourselves is; Why do we construct our entire lives in such a manner that is, in almost every way, the opposite of how we need to live them?

Moreover, why would we continue to carry on in such a way that has essentially cost us time with our loved ones and has made millions of us sick? It’s like knowing that there are dangerously high levels of carbon monoxide in your home. yet you choose to do nothing about it; ridiculous, right?

Instead of following our dreams, we plugged into technology and in doing so, we disconnected.

If it’s true that our old ways were making us sick, then what should our new normal include? When it comes to mental health, we must ensure that everyone gets the help they need and the treatment they deserve. This means funding that keeps pace with the prevalence of illness. Not only does it require more funding, but it also needs to be robust enough to adjust to the influx of mental health conditions after this pandemic is over.

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Perhaps we as a society need to do more than that, maybe our first step should start by each of us asking ourselves one fundamentally important question. “Is how I was living my life pre-pandemic, really the best way to live my life?” If you find that the answer is no; then getting back to “normal” will probably make you sick.

“While you were busy pushing your loved ones out of the way, time kept slipping away.

We need to do better, we have to, for the life we knew previously, was built on exhausting ourselves to the degree where we unplugged from the family unit, ran out of time for friends and left our dreams at the door of the job we took so we could eat.

Instead of following our dreams, we plugged into technology and in doing so, we disconnected, not only from those we love but from all the things that fuel our passion.

Is technology making us sick?

We can do and we must do better; so let’s demand better. Our reality isn’t really real in the sense that everything in our life that we view as essential is based on dependence; adduction if you will. Therefore, our minds are highjacked and conditioned into a buy, buy, buy mindset. This “normal” tells us that we aren’t happy unless we have the latest and great thing.

Wec can do better


Addiction: a compulsive, chronic, physiological or psychological need for a habit-forming substance, behaviour, or activity having harmful physical, psychological, or social effects and typically causing well-defined symptoms (such as anxiety, irritability, tremors, or nausea) upon withdrawal or abstinence the state of being addicted. merriam-webster

Our food, what we drink, the bills we pay, all chip away at our original design and make us into a tribe of disconnected, mentally ill and addicted consumers. Personally, I can literally see the definition of how we live within the official definition of addiction above.

So, what’s the cure? We need to get off the 21st-century, make them into drones project and rediscover what makes us mentally whole; love kindness and connection are fundamental for humans to thrive and be well. Therefore, If we reinvent ourselves and move towards true happiness, the road to mental wellness will be a shorter, smoother and afar less arduous ride. Yes indeed, we can do better.

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The new way to therapy

the new way to therapy

Our lives have changed so much in such a short period of time; forcing us to be creative in almost every facet of lives. However, some of these alterations I just can’t warm up to; the new way to therapy is one of them.

The benefits of online therapy.

With that said, if I didn’t have access to my psychologist; I’m fairly certain that my PTSD would rule over me like a fifteenth-century king. I would have little chance of surviving this chaotic time.

the new way to therapy still has real value.

In fact, I can say with a great deal of certainty that I would not get through. But, thankfully I am coping. Hey, it may not be ideal, but the new way to therapy, at least it’s something. So, I chose to be grateful For anything that will help see me through; I will be taking stalk of all things that matter and indeed; those things that ease the burden.

On the other side of the coin, looking at someone on a computer screen just doesn’t feel authentic; thus, I don’t feel like I am not getting the most out of the sessions.

Despite this fact, I remind myself that we don’t always have control over our lives; as much as I wish this wasn’t the case, it is, so I do what I must.

In my life’s journey, I have learned that I must do whatever it takes to make things better.”

As we all should, this is not the time to out and out reject the help we get or have access to; its a time to grin and bear it; do the best we can and pick up the pieces when this worldwide health emergency ends, and it will end.

The new way to therapy.

I am not at all surprised to hear that others are finding certain things less helpful for them now than before; almost daily we hear of another tragic aspect to COVID -19 and, well, quite frankly, personally it’s getting more and more difficult to combat my depression. I assume you are feeling it too.


How then, do we ever expect to get out of this and ever expect to recover? I think the answer is, we may not make a full recovery. By that, I mean the world we once knew will be a world we leave behind. In the interim, we have to use whatever is at our disposal to help us navigate through the unimaginable. Sometimes, getting through this will be a moment by moment thing. However, we will get through it.

Just don’t give up; a window can become a door; a simple coffee can bring a sense of normality and a video connection with a mental health professional can pull you into the light. In other words, the new way to therapy still has real value.

COVID-19 and your mentaL health

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A difference a day makes

a difference a day makes.

As I wake to greet a brand new day, I breathe a sigh of relief. And in the first few minutes, I’ve been awake, I am already feeling better than I did yesterday. And as the day progresses, My sprits remain high; because of this, I can’t help but think what a difference a day makes.

Yesterday, I spent the majority of my day sleeping. I cared little for the beautiful day that lay just beyond my window. Having made the decision to have my kids shelter in place with their mother weeks ago, I have found my mood slipping more and more as of late.

Although in my heart, I made the right decision, knowing that does little to ease the pain of missing them. I find some moments, hours and even some days unbearable. All I want is to hug them and breath in the simple things that matter most, their love.

Dealing with mental illness and isolation.

How I learned to ride the wave.

When it comes to my mental health, I am faced with some pretty tough challenges, ones that don’t get better overnight. PTSD, for example, is relentless, cruel and unforgiving; It’s all things that keep me up at night. However, I have managed to find ways to cope through my depressive episodes, flashbacks and the overstimulating effects that come with interacting with the wider world.

With that said, sometimes coping skills like mindfulness, exercise and cognitive behavioural approaches just don’t work and I find my self drowning in a sea of mental despair. These are the Staple coping strategies I use. Not foolproof, but then nonetheless help me out significantly.

Thankfully, I have come to realize that even the most challenging episodes always pass; all I have to do is ride the wave and bear its brunt. Once the storm passes, I am able to employ the above skills I have learned in therapy.

Overall, I have learned that while in the peak of the mental storm, it’s ok to shut down; it’s not something that needs to be solved, it just is what it is. Like me, you’ll be ok too. Tomorrow, you will see a difference a day makes.

Why do we feel like its wrong?

In a quest for the answer to this question, I have come to a few conclusions. Firstly, When a mental illness has control over the way we feel, it has control over the way we think; highjacking our neurology is what it does best and sabotage is its game.

When we are overcome with mental illness, it tells us that we are not good people and convinces us that worthless in the process. Moreover, it seems the lager the episode, the larger the worthlessness and guilt we feel. Do we know this is not true? Of course, does it make us feel better when in these darker moments? Of course not. Ah, the power of the mind to turn on itself; almost like an autoimmune disease, when the body turns on itself.

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Secondly, Stigma plays a role in the intensity of the guilt we feel. This shame exacerbates the intensity of the dread that we feel. After all, our ability to keep ourselves going is how we measure our worth as people.

A difference a day makes

However incorrect this assumption may be, we nonetheless allow it to dominate and define us and as a result, we hate ourselves when our mental health takes a huge hit.

I for one will no longer be at the mercy of stigma’s mythology; my pain is already enough on its own. It really doesn’t matter what people think, especially when they are wrong.

So, remember, sometimes we have to ride the wave and wait for tomorrow. It really is amazing, a difference a day makes. You and I have survived 100% of our worst days, therefore, we can do it again. We are mental health warriors.

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