Men And Silence-Depression Rules

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Men and silence, letting depression rule? Why? Well, it’s a complex question. Our silence was built upon countless years of seeing the pain from the interior as non-manly, somehow we are weaker, defective and inferior if we have depression or any other mental illness for that matter. And, if we dare bare our souls or shed a tear… Oh! Boy! Let me tell ya, we men would shatter like glass.

It has been my mission to reach as many people as I can, blogging is great for this. I am very hopeful that my story resonates with at least a percentage of the people who read it. Thus far, we have had approximately 3000 unique visits to the blog in a month; I am so grateful that all of you have stopped by The Road to Mental Wellness. With an untold number of places you could go on this vast internet, you stopped by here….. You’re all amazing! Thank You so much.

That’s a pretty good number as far as I am concerned. It does my heart good to know that my blog could potentially help inspire people to keep going or otherwise, help them to get started on their own wellness journey; if it ends up only helping a sliver of those who drop by, then it will all be worth it.

Now, with all that said, I also help people in the real world, I love it, but the one thing I notice is that it’s rare to have a man seek my out my help. I am worried of all men who stick to the old fashion narrative of keeping quiet is a measure of manhood. Well, it’s not frankly. I do understand the mental mountain men must climb to be ok with, one, talking about their depression and or other mental health conditions and two, seeking help for it. There’s no shame in mental pain brothers.

 Go here for help and resources for men with depression: Heads Up Guys

For more on depression, go here:

Helping someone with depression? Go here:

The way I see it, we are more than the sum of our manliness, we have loved ones in our life that have an emotional investment in us. Therefore, as shitty as it may be to go through, we have to man up and try. We want or sons, nephews, cousins and dads to be around for a long time, so I reckon that they feel the same about us. Love for others and being loved ourselves is an amazing thing and is worthy of fighting to keep.

I know you’re tired and I know that sometimes just checking your phone seems like your training to be
a navy seal, Yes, it can be that tough……. but we need to find our change at happy again, fight on bro, fight on!

if you are suffering from PTSD or another mental illness, please reach out. I thank you for your service and you are still worthy and mean something. I believe in you!

If you are struggling please go here: Crisis Services Canada or visit Sick Not Weak 


Want help fund my book? donate: GOFundMe – The Road To Mental Wellness – The book

You may also enjoy The Results Are In, Am I Healed?

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Jonathan Arenburg

I am a mental health advocate and mental health blogger. I Have my own battles with mental illness and want to share my story. "Telling my story of my mental wellness journey, hoping that it will help others along the way."

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